Teenager is speaking out about her recent experience at a local home-school prom. Recently, Clare Ettinger, a 17-year-old home schooled senior was kicked out of a local home-school prom because a group of dads were allegedly lusting after her.
She wrote about the incident on her sister’s blog Wine and Marble.
Like any teenage girl she was really excited about her dress choice for the evening. She complied with the home-school association’s dress code, which stated that a girl’s dress must be “finger length.” But when she arrived at the prom with her boyfriend, one of the organizers stopped her to tell her that her dress was too short. But she corrected her and showed her it was finger length, the organizer allowed her to continue on into the prom. But for Claire this was just the beginning of her problems.
“When I got into the ballroom I laughed, because I was surrounded by girls in much shorter dresses then me, albeit they were shorter, and therefore stood out less in the crowd, but it was still frustrating” recalled Claire. “I joined my group of friends, (there were six of us), and told them what happened, they were all appalled, especially considering we’ve been attending this prom all four years of high school and usually wore much shorter dresses then we chose this year. We were also a little grossed out by all the dads on the balcony above the dance floor, ogling and talking amongst themselves.”
While having fun she was approached again by the same woman and asked to step outside. When she did, the woman told her that some of the dads had complained that she was dancing inappropriately and that her dress was too short. Claire made it clear that she wasn’t dancing at all and once again showed the woman that her dress was the appropriate length. Even after talking, Claire and her group of friends were kicked out of the prom. They did tell the group they would get refunds for the tickets, Clare was the only one who got her money back.
“I was told that the way I dressed and moved my body was causing men to think inappropriately about me, implying that it is my responsibility to control other people’s thoughts and drives,” said Claire.
Since the incident, angry people from all over took to the Facebook page of the Richmond Home-school Prom to express their disgust at the situation, and the administrators deleted all the comments. Now, it appears that they have deleted their page altogether.
Sources: Homeschoolers Anonymous, Hannah Ettinger